A few simple things that I'm learning from my kids (and from the girls I watch). I say "learning" because it is still a process that is unfinished until the day I pass.
1. It does help to have someone at least acknowledge your hurt, on the outside OR inside. As an adult, acknowledging it yourself can help you move on. Kids have a MUCH better time moving on though as seen by the HUGE smile on their face as soon as you kiss the "booboo". ;o)
2. Black and white is good. When you let someone take an inch the next will try to take two.
3. As a parent, if you do give an inch, it's your right to deny that inch (or two) the next time. No need to rationalize.
4. Life is unfair, and in order to preserve sanity, a "pecking order" can be OK. Best to learn sooner rather then later who they can mess with.
5. It's not their EARS that are the problem. When they are disobeying, it's best to call it what it is, disobedience. If they really didn't hear you, it was still a CHOICE not to listen.
6. TV sucks the life out of you and can cause you to behave badly.
7. The bark is worse then the bite (unless they really do bite). They may put up an AWFUL fight, but in the end they are JUST FINE and sometimes even joyful.
8. Two wrongs do not make a right. It's hard to be the bigger person, even when you are. Yelling back does no good it just shows that you have no plan of action to right the wrong.
9. Something I am SO still learning...lesson are repeated until they are learned. The longer it takes the more difficult they get. Pain has a way of getting out attention. Make it painful!
10. They are us...on a tiny scale.
Friday, May 27
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